Who wrote and designed this website?

Me. With the exception of the touch photos, which were mostly shot for me by the amazing Ashley Klassen, everything on this website was written and designed by me. I only mention this because people often think the site was done by some ad agency or ghostwriter. In fact, every word here has been carved out of the sweat, toil, and heart I’ve put into my practice. I have a very high standard for the work I do. Translating its beauty either in words or visually is next to impossible, but I have tried. :)

Who does the touch?

A patient and sympathetic man. Also a mercurial and highly experimental man. Together they make a whole.

What happens during the massage?

I have no idea. I cannot predict the future :) I’m not being coy. Every woman is different. The work I do is quiet, artistic, and highly individual. What happens between us is a product of the trust generated through conversation, touch, and shared intimacy. My approach is careful and artisanal, and I never know what will happen, even with the same woman from appointment to appointment. The work is a living thing, and this means both I and the person I am working on give into the moment and its possibility.

One more thing to say about this: part of coming to me is learning how to surrender, to let go. There is power generated in letting go. The more someone comes to see me seeking to control the situation, the more I do my best to gently dissolve this tendency. This is not about power, but persuasion. I will explain my own journey to surrender when we meet. Of course learning what to surrender to and under what conditions is a process of discernment, but surrendering is necessary to being balanced and truly powerful.

Who do you work on?

I work exclusively on women. Men desperately need conscious touch, but for lots of reasons I am not the one to work on them. Also at the moment I cannot recommend someone who does the work I do on men. Hopefully in the near future.

Where is this done?

Out of my home, wherever I happen to be. When in Toronto, it is in an upscale place on a gentle street in the Riverdale neighbourhood. It is quiet, very safe and tree-lined. The outside of my home is rather shabby looking, but the inside is aesthetic and light filled. People are often happily shocked by the contrast. It’s part of the adventure. :) The touch is done on the third floor of my house, and people have described it as cozy and peaceful, which it is.

Will you come to my place to do the service?

No. I used to do this, and it was always interesting, but it’s just not the same experience as coming to my space, which is set up to remove you from your normal life and your regular routines. Please trust me on this. You must come to me. It’s 100x better :)

Can my partner or friend be there?

No. This is a solo journey for you to feel in new ways, to develop new skills and vantage points so you can return fully to your relationship(s) with a new outlook–and even fresh expectations for your partner around touch, intimacy, and sacredness. Having a partner involved radically alters the dynamic. I used to meet partners for safety reasons, and it just makes the whole thing quite uncomfortable in a lot of ways. A lot of men think this is some sort of spectator sport, men being men, but that’s not at all what this is. It’s quite the opposite: this is about a women’s soul, her appetites, her private exploration. There are plenty of other cheesy websites dedicated to sensual massage as a spectator sport. I’m after something much more refined and have a very distinct path to a women’s liberation.

Can I meet you first before I decide to book?

Unfortunately no. I’d love to meet, and we’d probably chat for hours, and I used to do it to make people feel safe and comfortable, but it’s too time-consuming for me now. Hope you understand.

Is this safe?

Yes. You are coming to my home. I live on the upper two floors of a house in Riverdale, and there are two lovely professional couples who live in completely separate units on the main floor and in the basement. My house is a quiet, aesthetic, and light-filled sanctuary. People immediately comment how nice it is to be in.

So, in short, it’s normal to be slightly nervous, but there is no reason to worry about your safety. I treat you as an old friend when you arrive.

One more thing about that: occasionally a woman will ask if the reviews I’ve posted are real, and then ask why I don’t have Google reviews. I literally have hundreds of reviews people have sent me through text or emails over the years. Google does not allow reviews for sensual massage, and just as importantly, the service I provide would be very difficult to review for a whole bunch of reasons, both practical and philosophical. It breathes, it changes. It can’t easily be put into a Google-like review “thumbs up, four stars!” or whatever. Those reviews are meant for services that are not quite as ephemeral as what I do. ;)

How long is the experience?

You’ll spend 2.5-3 hours in total with me. Long form touch is life-altering. It cannot be rushed. Trust me on this. ;) Every single part of the experience has been calibrated and considered to evoke feelings and sensations which your brain cannot and should not rush through. To be deeply absorbed in yourself requires time. In fact, time often stops during the session, and you might float into your history, into your choices, into the the stuff of your life. I’m gently urging you into the deepest level of self-examination through touch and pleasure.

How often do people come to see you?

Your time with me will have a life cycle. I have no interest in rebooking you if I am not helping you. Of course if you feel you are being helped in coming to see me, I will happily continue. The point is that my goal is not to rebook you for booking sake. Some women come once a month; some come just one time. Others come once a year as a treat or as a gentle reunion. Any variation on this is fine as I have created this process as a series of nested dolls with treasures in each session.

There is no doubt that second sessions and subsequent sessions are more intimate and meaningful as there is greater trust and intimacy. I have worked with some women for months and even years. I have also let go of some clients if I feel I can’t help them any longer or the energy between us sours. The only way this thing works is as a living thing, not as a service or performance. I consider myself always to be gracious, but part of the process is also to always be sincere and honest in my reflections.

How much is the session?

$300 for two plus hours of touch.

Do I tip?

Tips are never expected in any way, but are always appreciated. The work I do is modest and beautiful. It is not a path to riches, and so when people are generous to me, it’s always nice, but I also like that someone can come to me and simply not have to think about anything but letting go. Point is, either is fine. Sincerely.

How long have you been doing this work?

For more than ten years. The beauty and transformation I have seen in that time is extraordinary. So….much….beauty. I’ve worked on many women in that time and probably experienced every possible variation of emotional expression and creation. I’ve watched women rebuild themselves from the ashes of their pain, and become strong and worry free. I’ve seen everything in between.

Why do you do this work?

It’s a beautiful story, best unrolled when we meet.

But let’s just say through the pain of my own fractured relationship with abusive touch as a child,

I hatched a very deep and vivid dream in response,

which spans many decades,

about what touch and sensuality might be for people in general

and women in particular.

Unlike men, women can go long periods of time without touch or affection, and then find themselves inwards or distorted or frozen…

…and might trade sex for temporary relief on a dating app when what all they really want is simply…

…to be treated as full human beings.

Sure they might just go to a spa and get a regular RMT massage…

…but it’s not enough.

It’s….just…not enough.

I know because they tell me so.

Over and over.

Now somewhere in the gap between a meaningless hookup and a rather clinical massage

is a whole other world of possibility.

A deeper story.

An ache not scratched, a dream not realized.

A hidden world, tamped down by a daily life and constant speed.

I’ve been considering that place for a long, long time.

Meanwhile, we’re living in a very strange age where we’re removing touch out of our collective lives in favour of a near constant lover affair with our digital devices…

…and the casual and meaningless stuff that comes out of them.

I can’t stand that culture.

And based on the many women who write to me and whisper to me in private…

…they can’t stand it either.

So I set up this practice more than a decade ago to create a new standard for sensual touch in particular,

and touch in general.

It’s some kind of primal roar for a culture of depth over a culture of the shallow.

For myself and for others.

No cheese, no sleaze…

…just a complete process of meaningful talk, deep touch, and gentle integration.

Sense, self, sensuality…

all of it.

ALL OF IT…

considered, honoured, and integrated.

That’s the promise, anyway. :)

How did you prepare for this work?

I’ve lived a life. :) Before this I was an artist, a searcher, a designer and tech entrepreneur. Through all of that time I lived in alternative realms as a secret searcher: Ashtanga yoga, meditation, Buddhism, various spiritual ephemera, drumming with elders…all the things.

Eventually I got down to the hard work of liberation, and that involved going wholesale into the question of how you take unwanted touch and transform it into sacred touch. There is often a kind of holy alliance with the women who come to me who have had their own sense of touch abused or neglected.

Why this touch? Why not regular (RMT) massage?

Ah, well….let's have a glass of wine and discuss. 

The simple answer is:

Registered massage therapy is highly industrial, one-dimensional, and lacking in soul. Touch and massage are profoundly important to us as humans–to connecting with each other, to our sensual, sexual and spiritual realities, and crucially, to our eventual surrender to the love of others. So while we're living in an age of profound and acute touch starvation, the business of professional touch accesses only one level of our being, for lots of good and not-so-good reasons. You can easily get a good massage most anytime of day, but are you ever moved by a massage? Inspired? Elevated? Altered? 

Rarely, if ever, it seems to me.

It's not to say the people that do registered massage are the problem, but that the system itself is broken. Many highly artistic and sensual beings go to school and get trained in massage, and then find themselves little-by-little ground into knot-reducing machines, where the art and heart are removed from they do. They wear uniforms like doctors or nurses, they have charts, and they know muscle groups. Meanwhile, the more microscopic they get about massage, the less they actually connect with the person in front of them. As if touch is only mechanical or medical.  

In fact, we are very complex multi-layered beings, but regular massage only addresses the most superficial parts of us.

What most of us crave is to be touched, to be moved, and to be understood.

This is the great deficit of our time. Our phones have become our lovers, and we give so much attention to electronic devices, rather than each other. This touch starvation can and should be challenged by conscious, deep touch, but the touch-making business is only either industrial or sleazy, and not much in between.

In the my own little way, I have set out to change all that. 

I am self-conscious about my body. Is that ok/normal?

Yes. In part that’s why you would come to see me–to get over that judgment. Every woman is self-conscious in some way about their body. Every. Single. One. It’s built into being human.

We have cracks so the light can get in, as the great Leonard Cohen famously said.

Your imperfections will always be there. Pleasure of the kind I offer tends to soften judgment.

It’s hard to dislike your body when it’s the source of so much pleasure.

Is there music? 

Music is critical to creating an atmosphere of surrender. The music I use is painstakingly chosen as to align with deep rhythms of relaxation. Brian Eno's Thursday Afternoon or William Basinski's Cascade is typical of what I might play. Lately I’ve been very much into a perfect edit I have made of Moby’s ambient work.

Do you do "regular" RMT-style massage? 

No I do not. This is a different planet. :)

Do you teach? 

Yes. More about that here.

Are you available for longer periods, such as trips and 1-on-1 training?

Yes. Fill out the contact form below if you would like to know more.